Self-doubt is the most common reason why people fail. And with more doubt comes more negative thoughts. And more negative thoughts can quickly become a part of our personality.
A successful person is someone who experiences challenges and accepts failure and unhappiness as a part of life. Having a healthy sense of self-worth means you are a well-balanced person neither too sensitive to criticism, not too dependent on praise. But not everyone has that inner confidence and self-esteem. Most of us cope with self-doubt once in a while, even successful personalities do.. Talking about confidence, it took me almost 2 years to get the courage to start this blog… I kept this blog hidden from my family members and most of the people who knew me for quite a long.. It was all based on the fear of people judging me.. Fear of failure.. But then people actually seemed to read what I wrote, which was weird and totally thrilling. So, the point is, it’s all in our head.. We are capable of doing whatever we want- Confidence and dedication is the key!
A little self-doubt is okay.. it’s normal and healthy. It helps us to be grounded and stay real… But, when a person suffers from a low self- worth, nothing is ever enough for them. They are insecure, in constant need of approval and admiration. Their sense of self-worth is not internal but depends on what others think.
At some point in life we all experience fear and self-doubt but the willingness to keep moving is what makes the difference. Time and time again our inner self-doubt makes us question our capability and keeps us away from taking action when the right opportunity comes up. Just be confident and say Yes to the opportunity. It’s all about accepting the challenges, being courageous to take action and committing to do whatever it takes to make it happen!
Avoid fear-based decision making. Don’t let your fear or worries dictate your action. You love to do something but you won’t do it because of the fear of people judging you. Chase your dream and do what you like to do.
You need to accept who you are and not who you think you’re supposed to be. This also means that you need to accept your good qualities and your bad ones. And yes, everyone has both good and bad qualities. We all have flaws. It is a part of what makes us human. Be truthful and real with yourself.
When you have self-doubt, it reflects in your choices..We may be afraid to fail, afraid to look bad, afraid to take on more than we think we can handle. And, this fear leads to escape.. We become adept at making a lot of excuses for why an opportunity that presents itself isn’t a good fit. Never let go of an opportunity that could bring a positive change in your life or career, just because you feel that you won’t be a fit is a big mistake. You have to taste it, to know it!
Take your decisions: When you start doubting yourself to the point that you start making decisions based on what others want, not what you wanted for yourself. It’s when you start constantly struggling with confidence and always second-guessing yourself. . Just follow what works for you and do what makes you feel good, even if it is different from what someone else you look upon would do.. Just be in charge of your actions..The more you do something you like, the more confident you’ll feel.
Pause and reconnect with yourself. Sometimes shifting our focus away from what we are stuck on helps us take a new perspective when we get back to it.
Believe that you can do anything because you can. You can deal with any challenge that comes your way. Remember, you’ve already survived those difficult phases you’ve experienced in your life. Allow yourself to screw up and fail. Learn from it, be better the next time, and move on.
Be in a circle of good people: Those we habitually spend time with can have a profound effect on us, whether we are aware of it or not. I can definitely tell you from my experience that the kind of people you’re surrounded with can make or break you. (All about toxic people and relationships HERE!) I am more happy, productive and positive when I cut myself from those negative and toxic people from my life.
Who do you spend the most time with? What effect do they have on you? When you spend time with them, do you walk away feeling better about yourself or worse? Ask these questions to yourself and try to keep a distance with those negative minded people. Thank me later! lol!
Talk to your close ones: We get so lost in our heads that it’s difficult to separate our thoughts and emotions, to see things clearly. Talking through these issues with another person — a friend, spouse, co-worker or anyone close to you who is matured and makes sense — can help you to understand yourself better.
Gratitude. Times when you feel very low, think about what you’re grateful for. Include things about yourself. Experience and express gratitude for how far you’ve come, even if it all didn’t go as planned. Take time each day to remember accomplishments, even small ones. It can be easy to focus on what you didn’t win or accomplish. But don’t overlook all that you did.
Be kind to yourself. It’s time to accept the fact that no one judges you more than you judge yourself. Of course! There are a few people who love judging and making statements on others but to let you know… That’s all because they are insecure and not satisfied with what they have or doing in their life. Ignore them, be patient with yourself, and accept your flaws. When something doesn’t go right, try to keep your emotions in balance. Don’t be cold-hearted toward yourself, and remember that imperfection is a part of our shared human experience.
Worrying about what other people think of you will continue to hold you back from doing something potentially huge for yourself.
Don’t lose your voice. Seeking others’ input and advice is really good. However, if you are in the habit of continuously asking others what they think before making your decisions on important matters, you might be weakening your faith in yourself Take some advice, but at some point, make a decision on what feels right to you.
If something offends you, stop and ask yourself why you’re offended. Chances are people don’t want to hurt you, to begin with, but they might not know how to communicate effectively either. Don’t take things personally based on your assumptions.
Try new things. As you keep pushing yourself to try new things, you’ll start to truly understand how failure and mistakes lead to growth. It’s in our failures, that make us learn the most about ourselves. The more you push yourself, the more you’ll realize what you are capable of.
Comparing yourself to others wastes time and energy. There will always be someone who appears to be doing better, getting further or having more. Do not benchmark yourself against others’ accomplishments and possessions.
Keep your expectations real. Fear of not meeting your expectations is what creates a self- doubt and lack of confidence. Keep your expectations practical and real to achieve. You should try to be positive and should have the courage to accept yourself for what you are capable of doing and also your limitations!
Do not fear challenges, stand up for what you believe, and have the courage to admit your limitations.
Self-doubt is a very human response to all the challenges life throws your way. However, it doesn’t have to stop you from overcoming obstacles and reaching your goals. To build self-confidence and overcome self-doubt is to change how we feel about ourselves, trust our capabilities and know our strength. Do not let fear or self-doubt dictate how you lead your personal life.