A good relationship is a beautiful experience – full of love, warmth, trust, respect, understanding, and one that offers support and encouragement!
All relationships have their flaws and none of them come packaged with the permanent happiness, goodness and only the beautiful things. In any normal relationship, there will be arguments, disagreements and moments of dissatisfaction. Things will be said, done and forgiven, and for the most part, though, it will be blissful and life-giving to be in. A healthy relationship is balanced with good and bads
A relationship will either make the majority of your life happy or miserable to live. It is important to take your time and make sure that it is a wise choice before making a commitment.
When you are in a good relationship – You feel more content, energized, spending time with the person makes you feel good about yourself, you feel safer and emotionally attached to the person, you feel more confident and you don’t feel the need to change yourself to make the other person happy!.. A good relationship can make you feel more secure and positive. One where you don’t feel like you’re trying too hard. One where someone is sharing in your success and is proud of your achievements. One where someone is helping to grow for betterment and does all sorts of things to make you feel and be happy.
All relationships change. As you get to know the other person more, undergo different ups and downs of life, and overcome certain milestones together, that’s when the actual or real side of the person comes into play. If the relationship isn’t adapting and you aren’t growing together, the shift can easily turn from one of your most healthy relationships to one of your most toxic one.
Toxic/Bad relationships: A Toxic relationship can leave you feeling depressed and unhappy. Bad relationships aren’t just limited to marriages or partnerships—they can occur while dating, in friendships, families, co-worker or boss. We all have at least one person in our lives who would always be the reason for creating stress and tension. They aren’t inherently bad but they are not the right people for you. The more you are dedicated/attached to that wrong person or relationship, more is the chances of you getting hurt! You have to make your wellbeing a priority and you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of that relationship to sustain. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful – you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.
Most people know when their relationship with someone is not positive, but a toxic relationship is not always easy to detect:
- The most serious warning signs of a toxic relationship include any form of violence, abuse or harassment, if that the case, it calls for immediate action. If you feel that you’re in physical danger, you may need to involve the authorities or call The National Domestic Violence Hotline.
- The relationship has made you physically or emotionally drained of energy.
- You experience bad feeling about yourself, depression or anxiety.
- The relationship has got you, Isolated from friends, family, or others who are supportive of you, just because the person doesn’t want you to be around those people.
- A lack of trust or responsibility, an imbalance of power, blaming, manipulation, selfishness, possessiveness, dominating, and extreme jealousy is all you get from the relationship.
- A lack of consideration and respect from the person.
There are many reasons why people stay in an unhealthy relationship and suffer every day! Some are just not in a state to accept that their relationship is not working Or, they believe that they can change their partner and therefore, things will improve with time. And then, some are fearful of the consequences and lack the inner strength to leave. The sad truth is that unhealthy relationships rarely get better; instead, they get progressively worse, leaving scars that are difficult to recover with time. We are so conscious about our health, nutrition, skin, fitness etc and pay so much attention to the foods we consume to live a quality life. And yet we don’t realize that the quality of our relationship can impact a lot on our health – leading to stress, depression, anxiety, and even medical problems.
- If you don’t feel relaxed, uplifted, and supported in a relationship, then it’s not the one for you. There are so many obvious clues of not so good relationship and how it impacts your life! Any suffering in a relationship with no love and support from the partner is never worth! Knowing the signs of a bad relationship can really save you. It’s up to you to decide what kind of life you want to live in.. A happy one with no strings attached or be in a relationship filled with agony and dismay.
- It’s more about the other person than you: As much as you may think you need someone else, you need yourself much more. In a mutually respectful relationship, you won’t be trying to mold someone into your ideal person category and people are respected for who they are. In unhealthy relationships, the focus is more on changing others rather than working on changing yourself. When you do that, it becomes more about you than the other person and that’s not something positive!
- You sacrifice your growth and happiness: When you need some emotional support and the person shows an uncaring attitude to your needs. The person has only negative things to say about you, Instead of encouraging you to grow towards success..You start feeling less confident and negative about yourself – effecting your mental peace at work and life. No one deserves to be treated like that, and never make excuses for anyone who treats you that way.
- You are treated badly and experience odd behavior during the tough and stressful periods(physical or mental abuse): If you are involved with someone who tends to blame you for their stress or problems in their life, and you spend too much energy either defending yourself or trying to be understood. Then certainly something is wrong and you deserve better!
- Overly possessive and lack of trust: If there is no foundation of trust in your relationship, you just know that it’s a warning sign of more trouble ahead. When we try to control someone close to us, we limit them in ways that make them less themselves. A sure red flag is when you feel inferior or that you have no power to make your own decisions.
- Don’t talk through the issue and walks away: All couples have disagreements. That’s perfectly normal and healthy. But it’s how you handle those disagreements that can really make or break things. When your partner walks away, throws a tantrum and place all the blame on you are all red flags. If you feel like you are in a relationship that is draining your energy and leaves you feeling exhausted and spent, there is rarely a happy ending. It’s about expressing how something makes you feel and be heard when something bothers you. “Communication is key.”
- lack of care towards you and your concerns: In order for a relationship to be healthy, you have to be able to discuss everything. If you can’t even tell your partner when you’re upset, it’s not a good relationship and over the time, you may feel alone, constantly guilty, and you’ll even doubt your own self-confidence and self-worth when in a low state of mind, all alone! That’s not healthy at all.
- Being around or together with your partner won’t bring joy: When you’re spending time together, your partner seems like they’re just mentally distant, busy on their phone, bored and disinterested. Your partner is never engaging with you or with the things that you’re doing together. . You may think that it’s just you, but that’s not true. It’s a sign of something wrong!
- You are never appreciated for anything you do for that person: you don’t get appreciated for the good things you do for the person and they won’t even show some recognition. Being ungrateful is not a good sign and it could also be that the person has taken you for granted. Relationships should progress, not stay stagnant. If you feel like you’re the only one putting yourself out there and that too without anything in return with zero expectations, you deserve better.
- Feeling that you can’t be yourself: If you need to think twice before you speak and that you have to act a certain way. The other person thinks and believes that you are always wrong and what they say is right! So you suffer in silence and that could leave you frustrated and angry. Learn to speak up for yourself and if that’s the least freedom you can’t expect, it’s a red flag!
- Fights are mostly ugly and hit below the belt: There is always a chance of argument or fight between two people. But when the fight gets as an opportunity to tear the other person down, to hit below the belt, to get out all the anger and frustration inside – It’s not a relationship you deserve to be in!
- They can make your entire life worse: Everything from your friendships to your career can suffer if you’re in a bad relationship. You start changing all together as a person. You start wondering, why you’re not the same cool, fun, confident girl anymore, and maybe your friends and family feel the same.
It’s sometimes hard to recognize the signs of real trouble, even though you are deep broken, frightened, unhappy and lonely. But it’s hard to admit that your relationship is not working and that it’s anything less than perfect. Knowing the signs of a bad relationship can really save you.. Be honest with yourself about your relationships and be courageous enough to make a change. Your quality of life and your happiness depend on it! Even toxic relationships can be repaired if both people are committed to working on it. However, if the person refuses to change or try to understand your feelings and your needs, then there is nothing that can be done and your only choice is to leave.
Life is too short and living it to the happiest of moments with the people who deserve your time and love will make it memorable and worth living for! Stop worrying about the things that won’t even matter to you in the long run…. Stop stressing out over people who don’t deserve room in your heart.. Love yourself and don’t let anyone be the reason for your sadness.
What you guys think one should do to deal with a toxic person and is coming out of a toxic relationship is the best thing to do? would love to know your views in the comment section below!
Stay Happy, Healthy and Blessed..