A good relationship is a beautiful experience – full of love, warmth, trust, respect, understanding, and one that offers support and encouragement!
All relationships have their flaws and none of them come packaged with the permanent happiness, goodness and only the beautiful things. In any normal relationship, there will be arguments, disagreements and moments of dissatisfaction. Things will be said, done and forgiven, and for the most part, though, it will be blissful and life-giving to be in. A healthy relationship is balanced with good and bads
A relationship will either make the majority of your life happy or miserable to live. It is important to take your time and make sure that it is a wise choice before making a commitment.
When you are in a good relationship – You feel more content, energized, spending time with the person makes you feel good about yourself, you feel safer and emotionally attached to the person, you feel more confident and you don’t feel the need to change yourself to make the other person happy!.. A good relationship can make you feel more secure and positive. One where you don’t feel like you’re trying too hard. One where someone is sharing in your success and is proud of your achievements. One where someone is helping to grow for betterment and does all sorts of things to make you feel and be happy.
All relationships change. As you get to know the other person more, undergo different ups and downs of life, and overcome certain milestones together, that’s when the actual or real side of the person comes into play. If the relationship isn’t adapting and you aren’t growing together, the shift can easily turn from one of your most healthy relationships to one of your most toxic one.
Toxic/Bad relationships: A Toxic relationship can leave you feeling depressed and unhappy. Bad relationships aren’t just limited to marriages or partnerships—they can occur while dating, in friendships, families, co-worker or boss. We all have at least one person in our lives who would always be the reason for creating stress and tension. They aren’t inherently bad but they are not the right people for you. The more you are dedicated/attached to that wrong person or relationship, more is the chances of you getting hurt! You have to make your wellbeing a priority and you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of that relationship to sustain. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful – you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.
Most people know when their relationship with someone is not positive, but a toxic relationship is not always easy to detect:
- The most serious warning signs of a toxic relationship include any form of violence, abuse or harassment, if that the case, it calls for immediate action. If you feel that you’re in physical danger, you may need to involve the authorities or call The National Domestic Violence Hotline.
- The relationship has made you physically or emotionally drained of energy.
- You experience bad feeling about yourself, depression or anxiety.
- The relationship has got you, Isolated from friends, family, or others who are supportive of you, just because the person doesn’t want you to be around those people.
- A lack of trust or responsibility, an imbalance of power, blaming, manipulation, selfishness, possessiveness, dominating, and extreme jealousy is all you get from the relationship.
- A lack of consideration and respect from the person.
There are many reasons why people stay in an unhealthy relationship and suffer every day! Some are just not in a state to accept that their relationship is not working Or, they believe that they can change their partner and therefore, things will improve with time. And then, some are fearful of the consequences and lack the inner strength to leave. The sad truth is that unhealthy relationships rarely get better; instead, they get progressively worse, leaving scars that are difficult to recover with time. We are so conscious about our health, nutrition, skin, fitness etc and pay so much attention to the foods we consume to live a quality life. And yet we don’t realize that the quality of our relationship can impact a lot on our health – leading to stress, depression, anxiety, and even medical problems.
- If you don’t feel relaxed, uplifted, and supported in a relationship, then it’s not the one for you. There are so many obvious clues of not so good relationship and how it impacts your life! Any suffering in a relationship with no love and support from the partner is never worth! Knowing the signs of a bad relationship can really save you. It’s up to you to decide what kind of life you want to live in.. A happy one with no strings attached or be in a relationship filled with agony and dismay.
- It’s more about the other person than you: As much as you may think you need someone else, you need yourself much more. In a mutually respectful relationship, you won’t be trying to mold someone into your ideal person category and people are respected for who they are. In unhealthy relationships, the focus is more on changing others rather than working on changing yourself. When you do that, it becomes more about you than the other person and that’s not something positive!
- You sacrifice your growth and happiness: When you need some emotional support and the person shows an uncaring attitude to your needs. The person has only negative things to say about you, Instead of encouraging you to grow towards success..You start feeling less confident and negative about yourself – effecting your mental peace at work and life. No one deserves to be treated like that, and never make excuses for anyone who treats you that way.
- You are treated badly and experience odd behavior during the tough and stressful periods(physical or mental abuse): If you are involved with someone who tends to blame you for their stress or problems in their life, and you spend too much energy either defending yourself or trying to be understood. Then certainly something is wrong and you deserve better!
- Overly possessive and lack of trust: If there is no foundation of trust in your relationship, you just know that it’s a warning sign of more trouble ahead. When we try to control someone close to us, we limit them in ways that make them less themselves. A sure red flag is when you feel inferior or that you have no power to make your own decisions.
- Don’t talk through the issue and walks away: All couples have disagreements. That’s perfectly normal and healthy. But it’s how you handle those disagreements that can really make or break things. When your partner walks away, throws a tantrum and place all the blame on you are all red flags. If you feel like you are in a relationship that is draining your energy and leaves you feeling exhausted and spent, there is rarely a happy ending. It’s about expressing how something makes you feel and be heard when something bothers you. “Communication is key.”
- lack of care towards you and your concerns: In order for a relationship to be healthy, you have to be able to discuss everything. If you can’t even tell your partner when you’re upset, it’s not a good relationship and over the time, you may feel alone, constantly guilty, and you’ll even doubt your own self-confidence and self-worth when in a low state of mind, all alone! That’s not healthy at all.
- Being around or together with your partner won’t bring joy: When you’re spending time together, your partner seems like they’re just mentally distant, busy on their phone, bored and disinterested. Your partner is never engaging with you or with the things that you’re doing together. . You may think that it’s just you, but that’s not true. It’s a sign of something wrong!
- You are never appreciated for anything you do for that person: you don’t get appreciated for the good things you do for the person and they won’t even show some recognition. Being ungrateful is not a good sign and it could also be that the person has taken you for granted. Relationships should progress, not stay stagnant. If you feel like you’re the only one putting yourself out there and that too without anything in return with zero expectations, you deserve better.
- Feeling that you can’t be yourself: If you need to think twice before you speak and that you have to act a certain way. The other person thinks and believes that you are always wrong and what they say is right! So you suffer in silence and that could leave you frustrated and angry. Learn to speak up for yourself and if that’s the least freedom you can’t expect, it’s a red flag!
- Fights are mostly ugly and hit below the belt: There is always a chance of argument or fight between two people. But when the fight gets as an opportunity to tear the other person down, to hit below the belt, to get out all the anger and frustration inside – It’s not a relationship you deserve to be in!
- They can make your entire life worse: Everything from your friendships to your career can suffer if you’re in a bad relationship. You start changing all together as a person. You start wondering, why you’re not the same cool, fun, confident girl anymore, and maybe your friends and family feel the same.
It’s sometimes hard to recognize the signs of real trouble, even though you are deep broken, frightened, unhappy and lonely. But it’s hard to admit that your relationship is not working and that it’s anything less than perfect. Knowing the signs of a bad relationship can really save you.. Be honest with yourself about your relationships and be courageous enough to make a change. Your quality of life and your happiness depend on it! Even toxic relationships can be repaired if both people are committed to working on it. However, if the person refuses to change or try to understand your feelings and your needs, then there is nothing that can be done and your only choice is to leave.
Life is too short and living it to the happiest of moments with the people who deserve your time and love will make it memorable and worth living for! Stop worrying about the things that won’t even matter to you in the long run…. Stop stressing out over people who don’t deserve room in your heart.. Love yourself and don’t let anyone be the reason for your sadness.
What you guys think one should do to deal with a toxic person and is coming out of a toxic relationship is the best thing to do? would love to know your views in the comment section below!
Stay Happy, Healthy and Blessed..
Great tips and no surprise to me that self esteem is affected once you are in a toxic relationship. Sometimes our confidence is so shattered when need someone else to give up hope that we are not who we think we are ( and who the other person tells us we are). This one small act can give us the motivation to walk away and not turn back.
LikeLike
Agreed, great advice!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you
LikeLike
Awesome blog you have made it easy to identify a toxic relationship. nice work
LikeLike
i run into number 9a lot,this is a great post.thank you.
LikeLike
very well articulated.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks for the post!! I think I needed to read this ..
LikeLiked by 1 person
This is a great post! What are your thoughts if depression is the one causing all these problems?
Also, I am a new blogger so check out my site!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Nice Post
The link below is my blog, anyone can check it out if they wish, I also hope to inspire people to stay fit!
wordpress.com/read/feeds/86488827/posts/2020723255
LikeLiked by 1 person
Well explained. Really appreciable thoughts
LikeLiked by 1 person
What about great post! Great advice!
LikeLiked by 1 person
This is comprehensively awesome. Thanks for sharing.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Very ideal
LikeLiked by 1 person
I really enjoyed reading this post.I think that you make a good point about honesty and courage.
This is a good place to start from.
Love is the most important aspect of a relationship.If you just be honest and think….”Am i in love”there is your answer.
Look forward reading more.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Really good blog i can learn from your blog and really true..
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much..you’re really sweet to say that…
LikeLike
Great post. Keep writing. God bless.
LikeLike
Great article. Absolutely true.
https://styleofbonnie.com/
LikeLike
I recently nominated you for the Blogger Recognition Award because your blog is one of my faves! If you’d like to see more about it, you can check it out here:
https://hopelesslyheather.com/2018/09/12/blogger-recognition-award/
Thank you for being one of my most favorite bloggers to read!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Awwww..thank you so much dear..that’s really sweet of you.. thanks for nominating..😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
It’s my pleasure! 🙂
LikeLike
Thank you for stopping by on the blog. You have quite diverse content here.
LikeLike
These are so important to be aware of and to think about. You can lose yourself so easily in a relationship.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good signs to think about and look up for in a relationship.
http://mindfulwithjia.com
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you
LikeLike
I let myself be a participant in TWO toxic romantic relationships, and I can say today that I am with a wonderful, kind man who I wish I had found 13 years ago!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I just read your post..trying to comment but shows an error..have followed you..liked your posts and I could totally relate to what you feel..
LikeLiked by 1 person
Kindness is a great attribute.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes so true…!
LikeLike
What a great post- fully agree with you that it can be any relationship- partner, friend or family. Sometimes you just have to draw a line and if someone is making you feel bad and drained… start to keep a distance and detach as much as you can mentally. It takes training I think though to do this and it’s definitely not an easy thing…🙏🏻😌
LikeLiked by 2 people
I totally agree with you.. you right! It does take some training and experience.. I personally just distance myself with toxic people around me..less communications and less stress..
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hi Rachna,
I have nominated you for Liebster Award.
https://inspirechange27.wordpress.com/2018/09/16/liebster-award/
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you for nominating… I am really sorry but I don’t do award posts any more… you are really kind to consider me… I really appreciate..😊
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes I saw your earlier comment after i posted it.. couldn’t remove it then.. Its okay. Your posts really admire me, keep blogging..!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so much.. I really like your posts… keep doing great!😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
I m glad.. such comments inspire new bloggers:)
LikeLiked by 1 person
Good post! Very helpful. Clear message. Thanks!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you
LikeLiked by 1 person
Hey!! I have nominated you for Liebster Award. Link below.
https://onelife513532705.wordpress.com/2018/09/15/liebster-award-%F0%9F%8F%86/
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so much.. I feel sorry to say that..but, I don’t do award posts now.. I am really happy that you nominated me.. I really appreciate..😊😊😊
LikeLiked by 2 people
I understand. You are most welcome 🙂 .
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you.. 😊
LikeLiked by 1 person
So true!!
LikeLike
I absolutely appreciate this piece as I left a job that left a terrible taste in my mouth. The negative vibes finally got the best of me and now I’m healing. Thank you again for sharing this!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you
LikeLiked by 1 person
Amazing post on toxic relationship. Often, we ignore the red flags at the start of a relationship, hoping that it will pass. This resonated with me a lot “The sad truth is that unhealthy relationships rarely get better; instead, they get progressively worse, leaving scars that are difficult to recover with time.” Thanks for sharing 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thanks.. and I totally agree.. unhealthy relationships saldomly have chances of getting better and one should never hope that things might get better and choosing to suffer with that hope is the route to more unhappiness and suffering..
LikeLiked by 1 person
Very helpful information, thank you!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Reblogged this on Success Inspirers' World and commented:
A rich post on the toxic relationship.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you so much… I was not sure of this post but somehow published it.. but, thanks to you for making me believe that I did the right thing.. I thought people won’t be much interested in reading this one..
LikeLiked by 1 person
Excellent points and advice!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much..
LikeLiked by 2 people
Well described!
LikeLike
Well said in any relationship effort is apart of the plan but harmony should be the foundation on which it stands. In the ebb and flow in the give and take concern and kindness should never be at stake.
LikeLiked by 2 people
This post will be helpful to many people. Most of the people adjust to save a relationship not realizing they are hurting themselves…!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
This is the reality we all try to avoid. Thanks for sharing this post. Keep Glittering. Xoxo love and strength to all ❤️
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thanks for stopping by…
LikeLiked by 1 person
So glad to see an article about that on a blog! Please share it everywhere! ❤
LikeLike
I loved the content of this post. Plus it resonates with a ton of people.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Thank you so much..😊
LikeLiked by 2 people
Will I post all the pics
LikeLiked by 3 people
I am sorry but didn’t get you!
LikeLike
I have been in many toxic relationships. This post hit home with me and I appreciate you touching on something so sensitive. Thank you!
LikeLiked by 4 people
I know! Being in a toxic relationship could eventually take a lot from the person… spoil the whole life and everything worse… I hope people realize that life is too short to be unhappy..
LikeLiked by 2 people
Glad you shared this.. There definitely the need for more awareness on this topic. There are so many women out there who spend entire lives in a toxic relationship, blaming their own selves without realising what exactly is wrong…
LikeLiked by 4 people
Thank you so much for your response… I totally agree with you.. a bad relationship could make one’s life hell..
LikeLiked by 3 people
I always look forward to your latest posts… you always come up with great content and something interesting. You have mentioned very important issues related to the sufferings one goes through in a relationship.. Keep up the nice work…
LikeLiked by 4 people
thank you so much for always being so kind…
LikeLiked by 2 people
Wow, what a valuable blog post on real life relationships and a reminder for us to be in healthy fulfilling relationships! Often we don’t realize that a relationship is toxic for us until it’s too late. #3 and 4 above totally resonated with me. Thanks for a great post!
xo,
Amira at ASelfGuru.com
LikeLiked by 4 people
That’s so true..realization of something wrong is so important… thanks for your feedback..😊
LikeLiked by 2 people
A very detailed and great writeup. As you said we have one life so living with angst and fury is a big no no. If you can’t work it out happily take your own way
LikeLike
Such a good blog post! Will be following your blog from now on!
LikeLiked by 3 people
You just described my last relationship to a T!! Great read and so informative this can help a lot of people xx
LikeLiked by 4 people
Ahhh! That’s great that you’re out of your past relationship… thanks for appreciating my post..
LikeLiked by 3 people
Xoxox
LikeLiked by 1 person